There’s a particular kind of thinking pattern that can creep in quietly. You’re going about your day, and then—out of nowhere—a thought returns. A moment from a conversation. A text you wish you hadn’t sent. The look on someone’s face. A mistake you feel you made. A memory, vivid and aching. Or maybe it’s not […]

We often speak of compassion and acceptance as something we extend outward to those who are grieving, struggling, or simply doing the best they can. But it’s rather common not to turn that same compassion inward. Many of us live with a quiet undercurrent of self-judgment: regret over things we wish we’d handled differently, shame […]

It’s common to confuse hope with a wish. Wishing tends to zero in on a particular outcome. We might wish for the job offer. Or we wish the test result comes back negative. We might wish someone would change, or stay, or come back. A wish says, this is what I want, and I’ll be […]

Unfortunately, disappointment is unavoidable and uncomfortable, often hitting unexpectedly and leaving us scrambling and looking for our footing. The usual advice – feel your feelings, reframe the situation, find gratitude, just let it go – while helpful, can sometimes feel hollow when you’re in the middle of it. So how can we more practically and […]

Breakups usually feel like a deep wound – painful, disorienting, and overwhelming. Even if you saw it coming, even if you know it was the right decision, the loss of a relationship can shake your sense of stability and leave you wondering how to move forward. While there’s no quick fix for this type of […]