Infidelity is a complex and painful experience that profoundly impacts a relationship, the person betrayed, and very often the person who committed the act of infidelity. As a therapist who works with this issue, I understand the intricacies and emotional turmoil that accompany the discovery or admission of infidelity. It’s not just a breach of trust between partners; it’s a seismic shift that can shatter the very foundation of a relationship and life as you thought you knew it to be.

I work with both couples and individuals when dealing with the issue of infidelity. Infidelity always directly hurts the person betrayed and the betrayer is harmed differently in ways sometimes not apparent. Infidelity encompasses more than just physical betrayal; it involves emotional infidelity, dishonesty, and a sense of profound loss.

The aftermath often leads to a myriad of emotions such as anger, sadness, confusion, and a significant blow to self-esteem. Individuals may question their worth, wonder what they lacked, or blame themselves for their partner’s actions which further exacerbates their emotional distress. The person who betrayed their partner often feels guilty, anxious and their self-esteem usually takes a hit. Their world often becomes smaller as they have a big secret to keep.

The impact of infidelity isn’t confined to the relationship alone; it permeates additional dimensions of life including work, non-romantic relationships, and overall mental health. Trust, the cornerstone of any relationship, becomes fractured, and rebuilding is an arduous journey if it is to be done.

Therapy to Address Infidelity

Whether you’re on the receiving end of infidelity or you’re the one who was betrayed, therapy can provide a sanctuary—a safe space to navigate the barrage of emotions and complexities surrounding infidelity. In therapy, I work to help clients understand the underlying reasons behind the act of infidelity and they vary widely from individual to individual and couple to couple.

Sessions involve exploring communication breakdowns, unmet needs, unresolved conflicts and resentments, and vulnerabilities that contributed to the breach of trust. These explanations are never excuses or justification for the betrayal but a platform of understanding of what led to it. If two people are going to heal the injury of infidelity they need to know why it happened so they can address the problems that were not communicated and resolved prior to the cheating taking place.

If a couple enters therapy together to address infidelity, the therapy helps equip couples with tools and strategies to rebuild trust, improve communication, and foster a healthier, more resilient relationship. This involves cultivating empathy, fostering forgiveness when the time is right, and establishing new boundaries and relationship skills to safeguard the relationship’s future.

Therapy doesn’t focus solely on restoring the relationship; it also nurtures individual growth and self-discovery. It helps individuals rediscover their self-worth, rebuild self-esteem and confidence, and explore ways to cope with the emotional upheaval. By addressing the root causes and working through the pain, therapy facilitates healing and personal empowerment.

Every individual and relationship is unique, and so is the healing process. My approach is empathetic, non-judgmental, and collaborative. I strive to create a supportive environment where clients feel heard, validated, and empowered to navigate their journey towards healing and restoration.

If you’re grappling with the aftermath of infidelity, know that you’re not alone. With compassionate guidance and therapeutic support, it’s possible to find a way forward—to heal, rebuild, and rediscover a sense of hope and fulfillment in both your relationship and within yourself.

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I offer individual counseling, couples therapy and premarital counseling. The issues I work with are diverse and range from problems arising from sudden circumstantial changes to long standing and complex struggles. My approach to counseling is varied since individual needs and circumstances inform the methods I use. I don’t approach any two people the same and personalize my methods for each situation and client. Click the button below to book a session and we can begin your journey to rediscovery.


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