One of the toughest things to bring into being is action while facing uncertainty. The ability to do so defines much of what we call discipline. For some, it appears to come quite naturally while others struggle greatly. A few appear unfazed and uncaring about what they could or couldn’t do and ignore their own possibility. Some fret and wring their hands as they feel duty-bound to action the whole while fearing failure when already leaps and bounds ahead of the curve. Still, others calmly undertake challenge with steadfastness regardless of the terrain. Action is what brings potential into being and it defines and shapes our life in the form of adventure and the values expressed through behavior. (more…)
Archive for the ‘San Diego Therapist Blog’ Category:
I am happy to announce the option of online counseling not just for my San Diego clients but any person in California! Online counseling is convenient, can be utilized by individuals and couples and is more than half the cost of in-office therapy. Many people wonder how it works and I hope this blog post will answer that question.
Before experiencing and working with clients via online counseling, I was skeptical as to what kind of “relationship” could be forged between me and my clients since relationship and connection are essential to the process of therapy. (more…)
Aside from reasons you were given growing up, why tell the truth? Over the many years of being a therapist, I’ve been witness to many explanations justifying not telling the truth but much fewer rationales for truth-telling. Truth be told, honesty can be tough. It doesn’t make us look good all the time. There can be some downright uncomfortable consequences from it. We can lose things and people we want because of it. But, in the long run, it’s our ally and through it, we grow into ourselves and relationships.
From a relationship perspective, the benefit of truth-telling is fairly obvious. Truth and transparency foster intimacy and understanding. If a partner withholds the truth, there is less known about them by their partner and distance intercedes. Intimacy isn’t always warm, soft and comfortable. (more…)
People seek therapy for a variety of issues, but a leading reason is when someone’s world takes an unexpected turn and they find themselves facing some form of loss. Pain and anxiety may be triggered by the loss of a relationship, person, job, health and more. This shift in reality leads many to doubt what they thought they could depend on and can breed distrust towards self, others and the future. Depression and anxiety may become central while confidence and hope diminish. It is normal to be sad and scared during periods of loss and change but be careful not to lose sight of the promise which these experiences afford. Pain and loss are always the precursor to growth, wisdom and dare I say gratitude if handled with patience, humility and an open mind. (more…)
I have yet to meet someone in my private practice or personal life who said they were not honest. I think most everyone says they’re an honest person. But, my observation is that most of us are honest when it’s convenient for us… when it serves us and helps us feel better about who we are in the midst of the situation we find ourselves. Time and time again I see people choosing to conceal or partially disclose truth, deceive a person they love or outright lie when they are at the crossroads of serving others or serving themselves when faced with a difficult decision. (more…)