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After a Breakup: Finding Hope Through Healing

Breakups usually feel like a deep wound – painful, disorienting, and overwhelming. Even if you saw it coming, even if you know it was the right decision, the loss of a relationship can shake your sense of stability and leave you wondering how to move forward. While there’s no quick fix for this type of […]

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More Than Money: The Overlooked Contributions in Relationships

Money is almost always what couples focus on when discussing fairness regarding finances. Who earns more? Who pays for what and who contributes more? It’s easy to reduce contribution to money alone, but this perspective leaves out a crucial factor: work contribution is more than money.

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The Story of Spring: How Letting Go Makes Room for Growth

Winter has a way of slowing everything down. The bare trees, the quiet earth, the longer nights—all seem to press us inward, inviting us into rest and reflection. But no season lasts forever. Slowly, and what can sometimes feel like suddenly, the light begins to return. The air softens, buds and shoots emerge, and the […]

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Palentine’s Day: Celebrating the Value of Friendship

Friendship is one of the most rewarding and meaningful forms of connection. Beyond being a source of companionship, friends provide emotional support, a sense of belonging, and stoke the embers of personal growth. Here are some key benefits of friendship and why the friends in our life are worth celebrating.

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Understanding Codependency: When Helping Becomes Harmful

Codependency is often misunderstood as selflessness, devotion, “people pleasing” or simply being a “giver.” While caring deeply for others is healthy, codependency goes beyond generosity – it’s a pattern of behavior where a person’s sense of self-worth is tied to taking care of others and it’s done so at their own expense.

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Finding Gratitude in the Everyday Living

Gratitude is a buzzword these days, but when you move beyond the cliché, it’s an incredibly practical tool that enhances overall well-being. At its core, gratitude is about being present and noticing—taking the time to see and appreciate what is already at hand. It doesn’t require big gestures or extraordinary moments. Often, the most impactful […]

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Managing Family Tension During the Holidays

The holiday season is a time set apart for connection, celebration, and creating cherished memories, but it can also bring challenges, especially when navigating complicated family dynamics. Whether it’s unresolved conflicts, differing personalities, or the strain of hot-button topics like politics, family gatherings can feel overwhelming for some. Here are some strategies to help you […]

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Maintaining Relationships Across Political Divides

In today’s divisive political climate, maintaining relationships can be difficult when political beliefs don’t align. I witness in and out of therapy how distressing it can be when friendships become strained over differing beliefs. While it’s natural for differences to emerge, it’s important to remember that friendship stands on shared experiences and values that sometimes […]

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Toxic Behaviors versus Toxic People: Seeing the Difference

Navigating Toxic Behaviors and Patterns with Kindness Nowadays, it’s common to hear the term “toxic” when people describe challenging interactions with others. It’s equally common to hear the term “toxic person” when someone is describing a difficult relationship. But a deeper look into the nature of behavior and relationships reveals that it’s not the individual […]

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7 Fresh Strategies to Manage Worry

Worry is a natural part of life, but sometimes can feel like it’s taking over, making even small decisions seem overwhelming. If the standard suggestions for reducing worry and anxiety aren’t enough for you, here are seven fresh strategies to help you reduce worry in a more practical and engaging way. These tips are designed […]

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Managing Guilt When Setting Boundaries

It’s common to feel guilty when saying “no” or setting boundaries, especially if you’re someone who values relationships, cares about others, and wants to be helpful and supportive. You might worry that saying “no” will hurt someone’s feelings, create tension, or lead to conflict. This guilt may be uncomfortable and difficult but learning to handle […]

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Letting Go with Love: Navigating the Loss of a Relationship

Letting go of someone you love is one of the hardest emotional challenges many of us face. Whether it’s a romantic relationship, a friendship, or a close family member, the process of losing and moving on can feel overwhelming.  I often work with clients in this situation and the most difficult impasse, struggle and question […]

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Mindfulness Techniques for Stress

Stress is a universal experience. Whether it’s work-related pressures, personal challenges, daily responsibilities or the constant stream of information from our devices, stress can easily build up, impacting both our mental and physical well-being. One effective way to manage and reduce stress is through mindfulness—a simple yet powerful practice that helps you stay grounded in […]

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Technology, Social Media & Relationships: A Therapist’s Perspective

In today’s digital age, technology plays an integral role in our lives. Smartphones, tablets, and laptops help us stay connected, informed, and entertained. However, when it comes to relationships, the overuse or misuse of these devices can create barriers rather than bridges. This article explores how electronics, when not managed thoughtfully, can lead to disconnection […]

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A Therapist’s Guide to Understanding and Managing Anxiety

Anxiety is extremely common, and everyone is affected by it to some degree or another. I often work with clients dealing with the overwhelming feelings anxiety can bring. Understanding the mindsets and physiological processes that cause and exacerbate anxiety, and adopting strategies to manage it, is crucial for creating more peace, stability and the ability […]

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Communicating Effectively with Your Partner: 10 Tips to Avoid Conflict

Communication is the cornerstone of any healthy relationship. When done effectively, it strengthens your bond, fosters mutual understanding, and helps you navigate challenges together. However, poor communication can lead to misunderstandings, resentment, and conflict. Here are some practical tips to help you and your partner communicate better and avoid unnecessary conflicts.

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How to Handle Stress

How to Handle Stress: Practical Steps for a Calmer Mind & Body

Stress is unavoidable and a part of every life. It’s a normal response to challenges, but too much stress can take a toll on your physical and mental health. As a therapist, I’ve seen how overwhelming stress can become if not managed properly. Here are some practical strategies to help you handle stress effectively.

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Understanding Emotional Abuse

Emotional Abuse: What It Is and How to Recognize It

Emotional abuse is a pervasive but often misunderstood form of abuse that can profoundly impact a person’s mental health and well-being. Unlike physical abuse, emotional abuse can be subtle and insidious, making it difficult to identify and address. In this blog post, I’ll explore what emotional abuse is and steps you can take if you […]

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Understanding and Managing Mild to Moderate Depression

Depression is a common mental health condition that affects millions of people worldwide. While severe depression often receives more attention, mild to moderate depression can significantly impact your life. Recognizing its manifestations and learning how to cope with it are essential steps towards improving your mental and physical well-being.

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The Benefits of Individual Therapy: A Path to Personal Growth and Wellness

In a time where stress and struggle are commonplace, individual therapy offers a refuge for those seeking personal growth, mental clarity, and enhanced well-being. Whether you’re dealing with specific issues like depression, anxiety, or simply feeling stuck in life, individual therapy can be a transformative tool. Here’s how.

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Couples Counseling in San Diego

Couples Counseling: Strengthening Relationships at Any Stage

Whether you’re navigating the early excitement of a relationship or facing challenges after years together, couples counseling can be a game-changer. It’s not just for marriages on the rocks or for those in crisis mode. In fact, seeking counseling early on or when there are less severe issues can be incredibly beneficial. Let’s dive into […]

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Premarital Counseling San Diego

Preparing for Marriage: The Benefits of Premarital Counseling

Congratulations on your engagement! As you plan for and envision your new life together, it’s wise to invest in the foundation and future of your relationship. Premarital counseling should provide invaluable insights, tools, and suggestions as you prepare for this new chapter of life. I have used the Prepare/Enrich premarital assessment for about 20 years […]

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Integrity as a measure of success

Integrity: The True Measure of Success

When it comes to personal growth and development, one word often rises to the surface: integrity. Derived from the Latin word “integer,” meaning whole or complete, integrity represents the alignment between our actions, values, and beliefs. It’s about doing what’s right, even when it’s hard. When we act with integrity, we honor our wholeness and […]

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Redefining Success

What is Success? Redefining and Rethinking the Status Quo

In a world where success is often narrowly defined by material wealth, prestigious titles, or societal status, it’s essential to pause and reconsider: what truly constitutes success? As a therapist, I frequently work with individuals who wrestle with this question, seeking fulfillment beyond conventional metrics. In this post, I’ll explore the multifaceted nature of success […]

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