We are in a strange time and all of us are effected to some degree. Many are feeling unsettled, worried and concerned and most social interactions have come to a halt. I hope you are doing the best you can to promote self-care. There are many different attitudes surrounding us now and I encourage you to stay positive, hopeful and dynamic. Now is the time to be creative whether you live alone, find yourself homeschooling your kids while trying to work, or live with roommates, a partner or family. (more…)
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Often in life, we take aim at things because we feel driven or feel pulled. Feelings, whether they be passion, obligation, guilt or fear are often the motivators behind many pursuits in life. I venture to say that most of us don’t really question the feelings which spur ambition and don’t honestly examine whether our goals are truly in our best interest. While some people seem to soar effortlessly towards a chosen target, all of us at one time or another find ourselves slogging towards a vague objective we keep telling ourselves is noble and worthwhile. But is it and how do we know if it is? Part of honesty and self-understanding is taking the time to examine our feelings and motivations behind our chosen objectives in life.
Many clients come to counseling wanting to address what they already know to be emotional abuse. Others seek out therapy led by their intuition not yet able to name the dynamic taking place with their partner that often worsens with time. Unfortunately, a large percentage of clients ultimately choose to remain in an emotionally abusive relationship but there are many who take the steps towards well-being and leave the toxic relationship behind. (more…)
Difficult Family Members: Dealing and Coping
We either have them or know someone who has them. We’ve seen them humorously or dramatically portrayed on stage or TV, read about them in books or have listened to friends describe their all too colorful experiences. Whether it’s the embarrassing uncle who drinks too much, the domineering sibling, the critical father, dismissive mother or the creepy cousin, most families have at least one difficult-to-navigate family member and sometimes a whole crazy bunch. With the holidays around the corner, this is a time when anxieties and tempers often flair and moods are prone to dip. I hope the following tips are helpful if you find yourself facing time spent with challenging or toxic family members. (more…)
Facing Uncertainty, Depression and Fear with Intention
One of the toughest things to bring into being is action while facing uncertainty. The ability to do so defines much of what we call discipline. For some, it appears to come quite naturally while others struggle greatly. A few appear unfazed and uncaring about what they could or couldn’t do and ignore their own possibility. Some fret and wring their hands as they feel duty-bound to action the whole while fearing failure when already leaps and bounds ahead of the curve. Still, others calmly undertake challenges with steadfastness regardless of the terrain. Action is what brings potential into being and it defines and shapes our life in the form of adventure and the values expressed through behavior. (more…)