Aside from reasons you were given growing up, why tell the truth? Over the many years of being a therapist, I’ve been witness to many explanations justifying not telling the truth but much fewer rationales for truth-telling. Truth be told, honesty can be tough. It doesn’t make us look good all the time. There can be some downright uncomfortable consequences from it. We can lose things and people we want because of it. But, in the long run, it’s our ally and through it, we grow into ourselves and relationships.
From a relationship perspective, the benefit of truth-telling is fairly obvious. Truth and transparency foster intimacy and understanding. If a partner withholds the truth, there is less known about them by their partner and distance intercedes. Intimacy isn’t always warm, soft and comfortable. (more…)