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How to Deal with Difficult Family Members

Difficult Family Members: Dealing and Coping

We either have them or know someone who has them.  We’ve seen them humorously or dramatically portrayed on stage or TV, read about them in books or have listened to friends describe their all too colorful experiences.   Whether it’s the embarrassing uncle who drinks too much, the domineering sibling, the critical fatherdismissive mother or the creepy cousin, most families have at least one difficult-to-navigate family member and sometimes a whole crazy bunch.  With the holidays around the corner, this is a time when anxieties and tempers often flair and moods are prone to dip.  I hope the following tips are helpful if you find yourself facing time spent with challenging or toxic family members.  (more…)

Aim with Intention and Move with Consistency

Facing Uncertainty, Depression and Fear with Intention

One of the toughest things to bring into being is action while facing uncertainty.  The ability to do so defines much of what we call discipline.  For some, it appears to come quite naturally while others struggle greatly.  A few appear unfazed and uncaring about what they could or couldn’t do and ignore their own possibility.  Some fret and wring their hands as they feel duty-bound to action the whole while fearing failure when already leaps and bounds ahead of the curve.  Still, others calmly undertake challenges with steadfastness regardless of the terrain.  Action is what brings potential into being and it defines and shapes our life in the form of adventure and the values expressed through behavior.  (more…)

Online Counseling Now Available

Secure Online Counseling in California

I am happy to announce the option of online counseling not just for my San Diego clients but any person in California.  Online counseling is convenient, can be utilized by individuals and couples and is more than half the cost of in-office therapy.  Many people wonder how it works and I hope this blog post will answer that question.

Before experiencing and working with clients via online counseling, I was skeptical as to what kind of “relationship” could be forged between me and my clients since relationship and connection are essential to the process of therapy.  (more…)

The Truth Be Told: Honesty in Relationships

Honesty is Always the Best Policy but Not Always the Easiest

Aside from reasons you were given growing up, why tell the truth?   Over the many years of being a therapist, I’ve been witness to many explanations justifying not telling the truth but much fewer rationales for truth-telling.  Truth be told, honesty can be tough.  It doesn’t make us look good all the time.  There can be some downright uncomfortable consequences from it.  We can lose things and people we want because of it.  But, in the long run, it’s our ally and through it, we grow into ourselves and relationships.

From a relationship perspective, the benefit of truth-telling is fairly obvious.  Truth and transparency foster intimacy and understanding.  If a partner withholds the truth, there is less known about them by their partner and distance intercedes.  Intimacy isn’t always warm, soft and comfortable.  (more…)

The Promise in Pain

Struggle is Inevitable, but Also Holds Opportunity

People seek therapy for a variety of issues, but a leading reason is when someone’s world takes an unexpected turn and they find themselves facing some form of loss.  Pain and anxiety may be triggered by the loss of a relationship, person, job, health and more.  This shift in reality leads many to doubt what they thought they could depend on and can breed distrust towards self, others and the future.  Depression and anxiety may become central while confidence and hope diminish.  It is normal to be sad and scared during periods of loss and change but be careful not to lose sight of the promise which these experiences afford. Pain and loss are always the precursor to growth, wisdom and dare I say gratitude if handled with patience, humility and an open mind. (more…)