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Saying “No” Without the Guilt
The first reason we fail to set boundaries in the form of saying “no” is wanting to avoid something that feels uncomfortable or negative. Perhaps we want to avoid an argument, a disagreement or don’t want to see the person we care about become disappointed. This is where guilt plays a part for many. If we say “no” to something and that boundary results in our partner becoming sad, disappointed or upset, many people blame themselves and thereby feel guilt. So, to avoid feelings of guilt, people begin saying “yes” to things (more…)
My registered intern Aubree Papaj, M.S. is offering a free 90 minute Boundary Workshop on January 16th from 6:00 to 7:30 PM. This workshop will cover ways to identify poor boundaries, solutions to improve boundary setting, common problems associated with setting boundaries, communication strategies and how healthy boundaries help you and your relationships. RSVP required.
This time of year is full of countless obligations to others. We have parties and work functions to attend, gifts to buy, cards to write, calls to make, food to prepare and the list goes on. No matter how much time we allot, time seems to run short and the stress mounts. Before we know it, days fly by, the holidays are a distant blur, and we’re left exhausted at the beginning of the New Year. The common denominator is most always over-extending and running ourselves empty in the midst of obligations. While we want to keep our obligations to those we care about, below are some tips to help prevent overload. They are suggestions to help you enjoy the season as much as you want the people you care about to enjoy theirs.
Schedule Time for Yourself
If you wait “for it to happen”, it’s not gonna! Just as you make time for other people and other things, throw in something here and there for yourself. What is something you enjoy this time of year but haven’t done for a while? What is something you have been too busy for and keep putting off? Is there a friend you haven’t (more…)